Does all of a person’s temperament come from (a) starting point, (b) family must be rich, (c) money must be plentiful, (d) education must be quality, (e) existing relationship… or not?
In the new year, perhaps every founder will be full of desires, wishes and looking back to have a new year full of personal plans and progress.
I believe that every person is a bright gem, surrounded by a thick layer around us – Faith in ourselves.
All efforts for self-development are worthy of appreciation.
All wishes for a better life are worthy of praise.
All desires for action are worthy of encouragement.
So…
Why do we… lose faith?
When I was young, I thought that because I lacked a mother by my side, my soul was deprived of the soft guidance of a woman. This lack of softness made my soul rough and prone to aggression towards others. everything around you, attached to self-esteem when you receive help from people around you.
When I was young, I received the award for good students at the school where my aunt was the leader, with this priority; I always have to receive stares and think that my aunt is only a leader or principal to receive an award.
I think I don’t necessarily need someone’s help or pity, I think everything can be done with my own abilities.
In the past, I thought I lost confidence because I didn’t have a mother. But now that I think back, at the most difficult decision times in life, I see that her image always blesses me with good things and peace. At that time, I know that my mother is always by my side giving me the virtues. Believe strongly in yourself to make decisions for yourself, the right decisions. I feel like I’ve grown because of the moments of brave decision-making… for myself.
In the past, I thought it was because my mother had cancer; I think I lost confidence because my family lost its status. But I see that I have never lacked anything during my school career, whether it be the environment, conditions, spirit, or lost the qualities and habits that my parents gave me.
In the past, I thought I lost confidence because I didn’t study abroad. I joined a multinational organization led by top 500 billionaires and I felt the difference didn’t just come from education. I had more than 2 opportunities to get a prestigious degree after a few years, but I decided not to participate because I felt that the cost I spent for a few years of opportunities was not equal to the time I experienced locally; In the environment of a top 500 billionaire, what I learned is mindset & working style, how to solve and approach problem solving, I think this is a big milestone in my life, making me a completely different person in the environment and old living habits, ways of thinking & thinking, that’s enough; I can’t get a degree in exchange for more than 5 years of time.
In the past, when I graduated, with my father’s acquaintance, perhaps I could easily get a job at a credit fund or a local official position; for others it is a privilege to be accepted immediately, a broad political path; But for me, I chose to go to SG, work hard on myself and not seek help or family relationships.
In the past, I thought that because I didn’t know foreign languages, I wasn’t as good as other people, until I received a scholarship of 1000 USD, I went to school for 3 days and discovered that the intensity of their teaching was not even equal to the exercises I set myself. Practice for yourself every day.
In the past, I was 55kg ugly and lost confidence; It took me 2 years to gain 75kg with the effort of eating under the conditions that when I was in school, students only asked for an allowance of less than 2 million/month.
I thought I lost confidence because I didn’t have a lot of money to start a business. Later, I realized that having a lot of money doesn’t necessarily mean you can have a successful business, but almost all of my FFP100 team founders came from Starting from a very small capital of less than 100 million VND, my projects starting with a small capital have a much higher success rate than projects with high contributed capital; With my founder even rising from negative numbers and rebuilding hundreds of billions of assets, it turns out that money has never been the most important thing for a person’s success.
In the past, I thought I had to have a lot of basic knowledge so that when I started my companies, they would have a high success rate, but even if I had an extremely complete foundation and Based on many real projects, doing and studying, observing many perspectives, diverse sizes, diverse people, classes and qualifications, I see that the companies I founded are most realistic. Only similar to my plan… 40 – 50%.
Since the day I started studying media and writing 9 years ago, many people sympathized with me, but also many people did not understand me, even at the times when I acted fiercely and hardest at the same time. Running many companies with many different models, there are still people who make me think, later I learned that it turns out it comes from my own lack of strength to be stronger than… other people’s words, I don’t know where I am, compared to whom and what my own value is. When we are blind to our position compared to the world around us, we… lose confidence.
Right from the start in 2017, we had a vision of an asset management company, but the model was not yet complete, we have identified ourselves as a finance and investment company; Even in the most difficult times of COVID or the crisis, we have had to experience feelings of helplessness despite thinking of all kinds of ways to convert cash to maintain life, making strong stop-loss decisions, and making Deciding to transfer my brainchild was heartbreaking and confiding about a decision that few people understand. I discovered that I am still confident after all that because it turns out that the biggest enemy of belief in oneself is … is ourselves. Even when we have companies or projects that possess a much greater EBITDA potential than our old children, there are still people who don’t understand us very well. I just discovered that this world only believes in what they can… see and they can’t properly judge things… they don’t see clearly. hi hi
So you see, the biggest enemy of our own confidence is not the world around us or someone’s incomplete way of thinking… about us, but the person who makes us unable to be confident is no one. other… is… ourselves.
Later I discovered, how do I overcome those difficult adversities? When I feel uncertain about something about my team, I find that I start to rush into… crazy action. By doing a lot, at some point, knowledge and experience about people and our worldview accumulate enough to know what is right and what is wrong; What is promotion and what is improvement?
I just realized…
I’m confident because I… act.
I discovered why other people were naive, skeptical, easily led, easy to believe ignorant words, ignore sincere but useful advice, because they themselves were often… procrastinating, slow, late and not yet accumulated enough… a lot.
I feel sorry for many rough gems in this world, because they themselves do not dare to believe that they are a gem, they believe that they must have the best conditions to be able to develop their abilities. believe that they are lacking conditions in some aspect (starting point, family must be rich, money must be abundant, education must be of quality, existing relationships…), and because such So, they can’t be equal to someone else, and you know, when we don’t have confidence in ourselves, we will give birth to… envy.
As a founder/owner/inventor, you must stay away from jealousy, because doing so is being jealous of… yourself, and at the same time rejecting quality help around you.
Overcoming jealousy, being tolerant and absorbing the good energy of heaven and earth; Then there will be people who love us and are willing to help because of our tolerance.
We don’t know that the person who has confidence in their heart, or joy on their face after many storms, is the one who has the least fear and rushes into action… the most.
New actions make us wise and new actions give ourselves the opportunity to practice, experience and our own rough pearls have the opportunity to be polished… shiny.
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